My mother in law rocks. Really she does. Her impression of Tina Turner, complete with wig, heels and air guitar is, to quote Tina, Simply the Best. She makes great roast dinners and scrumptious birthday cakes. She loves a party and the chance to dance. Despite being widowed at just 42 and being floored with grief she picked herself up and made sure her children’s lives were full of fun and love. She’s now doing the same for her grandchildren. She is Super Nannie.
Two years ago Super Nannie found love when she wasn’t looking for it on the golf course with a lovely man, also a widower, who shares her sense of love, fun and loyalty. They may be in their sixties but they feel like teenagers again, says Super Nannie. And then she winks. This summer, twenty years since she was widowed, Super Nannie is getting married to Lovely Man.
When I tell people this, their inital response is almost always the same. “How lovely!” Followed swiftly by “Does your husband mind?” For the record my husband is very happy for his mother and Lovely Man. Ok, her social diary is now fuller which makes her a little less available for babysitting duty and the first time she denied him the last piece of chocolate roulade because she was saving it for Lovely Man it came as a bit of shock but this is a tiny price to pay for Super Nannie being Super Happy which is exactly what she deserves.
I’ve now started to ask people what they mean when they ask if he minds. Some people mean does he mind his mother finding a replacement for his father? He does not. Aged 36 and a father himself he does not in any way see Lovely Man as a replacement father but rather a bonus grandfather for our children. However, what other people mean is does he mind, you know about the money and well, his mother’s house? He does not care in the least. Super Nannie’s house belongs to Super Nannie. She can do with it as she pleases. He would not give a strawberry fluff if she were to sell it and live it up with Lovely Man until every last penny of equity is spent. Just so long as they don’t move in with us.
Super Nannie has got herself a fab wedding frock, an off the shoulder number which is all bride and not at all grandmother. She is going to look amazing. And we shall all of us dance all night at her wedding to celebrate that the best thing in life really is free.